Random Rant: Get Over It Already!

                Again, I am faced with another issue; this time is someone who will not let go of something. Two people actually. One male, one female, both are aggravating me entirely. The female is having an issue with a memory of a male that hurt her due to his insensitivity and his relapse to drugs. His memory is permeating everything around her and it is in some cases dragging everyone down with her. I am pissed off at this male because I met him and had he just showed up once, and not gotten his ass in trouble, he probably would not have hurt her. As it stands right now, she is forced to move on without him because he is entirely unavailable due to his choices. The part that is bothering me is that she will not let him go, even though in my eyes he has already moved on from her because he has ceased all contact with her. I understand that there may be information that I am not privy to but in the meantime, I’d rather not be dragged down by the memory of a male that I thoroughly wish to castigate and then castrate. The male is having issues similar to the female but in this cases it is not just one, but several. He has had issues with getting and keeping quality partners. One he got pregnant and due to outside influence of one of his family members, she ran off with his child and forced him to sign a document that for all intended purposes cuts him out of their child’s life. Another is an old flame that was going to get married to his best friend. This one was torn between him and his best friend, and wanted him to get in the way of their marriage, before it happened. He did not want to do it because he felt that it was wrong to do so and that he did not want her. He avoided the issue for as long as he could before it came down to him finally telling her that it was not going to happen.  Granted he did end up sleeping with her, but in the end, it came down to when it was all said and done he told her to leave. Afterward however he moped around for a couple of days. It bothers me because had he told her in the first place when he had found out about her coming up here, he would have nipped it in the bud and been able to move on like he wanted to. He bothers me because he knows what he should do, and what he needs to do but refuses to do it because it is painful to do so. It came down to me telling him that it happens and there is nothing that he could do about it.

                Sometimes it comes down to doing something regardless of how painful it is to do it. These two have that both in common. They know what they need to do, but refuse to do it because it causes heartache. I have unfortunately had to do this for myself. I had to let go of several memories because if I held on to them, it would have either killed me or pushed me towards relapse.  What I do not understand about people is that they push off painful issues until they cannot ignore it any longer. I’m not any better at not pushing it off, however I will realize that it needs to be done so therefore I do it before it becomes a problem.  Once done, I move on. I get over my issues as best as I can and as quickly as I can because I cannot stand to be miserable. I cannot dwell on my past because it will block my future. I will not let myself become stagnant because too many people depend on me to be able to help them. If I cannot get myself together, why would I help others? It would be as if the blind being led by the blind.