*Disclaimer: there will be coarse language used in this post, if
you’re easily offended and get sand in your vag, fucking deal with it, you may
be part of the problem. Straws and tampons ladies, either suck it up or plug it
up.*
This
week I’m talking about bitches.
There are many reasons as to why the word bitch became a word that became
synonymous to an undesirable woman. The history behind it is actually quite
interesting. Now bear in mind that “bitch” is often used for females of the
canine species. My theory as to why this became a descriptor for the females of
the human species is that, to call someone a dog in most languages is quite
offensive because it implies that someone is less than human. So therefore, if
you are going to call a woman a dog, you might as well call them a bitch,
mainly because of their anatomical capabilities. Females get fucked, get
pregnant, so on and so forth. The bitch of the canine species does the same
thing.
The literal
definition of the word bitch as per dictionary.com is: female dog, female of
the canine species, (or when it comes to human females) a malicious unpleasant
selfish person, or a derogatory term used for any specimen of the female
gender. It can be used as a verb, as a synonym for complaining. Urban dictionary
defines it as a woman who has a really bad attitude, whiny female, someone who
is in a rather demeaning position regardless of gender (an emotionally whipped
male or female in a relationship/modern equivalent of a servant), or a female
who uses her gender as a shield while saying disparaging/inappropriate remarks.
The fact of the matter is, is that I have encountered all of the above.
One
thing I have noticed is that women get labeled this quite frequently. Usually the
criteria for someone to be labeled a bitch is that they have said someone to
offend another person (quite possibly another woman), and they don’t care that
they have. Many cases the things that were said were an apt (if not coarse)
description of the person or situation that was discussed. Another qualification
for being a bitch is to sometimes display your emotions, particularly
anger/frustration/distain/etc… without really caring about what others think
about it. Another is speaking your mind honestly even when it could possibly
offend others. Another is doing what she wants to do, regardless of what others
think about it. Another thing is, is
that the person labeling someone as a bitch is often labeled a bitch herself.
Case and point: about three months back or so, I had a rather ugly falling out
with my ex roommate. She was disrespectful to myself and others and had a bad
habit of talking about other people behind their backs (another qualification
of being a bitch). It had gotten bad enough that I rarely was home because I flat
out didn’t want to deal with her drama and bullshit. Well one day, I told her
to start looking for a place because I was going to move out. She hadn’t been
helping with the bills like she said she was going to and I spent more money in
3 months on stuff for the house that I was barely able to use than I had with
my ex husband for 6 months. Needless to say, I got screwed. She takes offense
to this and demands the key to the storage unit. I was like “ok fine, just give
me my things out of the unit when you are able to.” Frankly I should have
demanded my things then and there but I was a tad naïve and didn’t think it was
going to go that far. She left my house a disaster and did not clean after
herself. And when I finally did get my things (after a huge argument) I noticed
one thing missing; the cross members to my solid oak futon. I described to her
what they looked like and explained to her where they should have been in the
unit. She swore up and down that she brought all of my things (BULLSHIT). I threatened
legal action when I wasn’t returned my things (or my key for that matter). She returned
the key, however I have yet to see the cross members to my futon, so now I have
a futon that I cannot put together because I am missing major components. I
will be able to “replace” these pieces but that is not the point. The fact of
the matter is, is that she now has 2 pieces of lumber that I doubt she knows
what they are for and will most likely burn them.
Here’s
a rather interesting sentence for food for thought. “A Bitch, is a female who
likes to bitch, make other people her bitch, and will label others as a bitch
when in fact she is one herself.” This sentence is in my opinion quite apt.
Those that are labeled as a bitch, in some cases couldn’t be farther from it,
but those that are labeling someone as a bitch do not consider themselves
bitches, when in fact that there is overwhelming evidence of their being a
bitch. I find it rather amusing to be honest. One thing that has always
bothered the ever living hell out of me is hypocrisy, regardless of where that hypocrisy
is coming from. Whether it’s from the government, religious/secular groups,
companies/corporations, or individuals it doesn’t matter to me. It all bothers
me. I may eventually go into why hypocrisy bothers me and give examples at a
later date, but now is not the time to do so.
I will
admit that at times, I am a bitch. I wholeheartedly admit to my bitchiness. I
complain at times, I can have a bad attitude here and there, sometimes I let my
temper off its leash and let loose on someone for something I thought was
wrong, I show my emotions honestly, speak honestly about someone, give honest
advice without sugar coating my words, and I’m guilty of saying something maliciously
if I believe that the situation warrants it. If I do say something malicious,
chances are it’s not because I’m doing it randomly, the person that I am
maliciously commenting about has in one way or another pissed me off or . Whether
its talking behind my back and I found out, being a hypocrite, stabbing my
friends or I in the back to get ahead, or doing a number of things that could
possibly piss me off, I will speak my mind. Often I will have already spoken my
mind to the person I’m talking about and frankly… I don’t care. Many cases I’ve
already tried to give this person the benefit of the doubt before I made my
decision on their character, but they have given me a reason to do what I am
doing. I will not however, be a bitch to or about my friends, acquaintances
maybe, but friends absolutely not. There are situations that warrant getting
demoted to acquaintance. If you’ve hurt me to the point of demotion, you
probably did something that goes against my moral standards, used me, or lied
about something big to me. Weddings and babies don’t count; sleeping with my
significant other on the other hand is another.
If you
believe that you fit the criteria of a bitch, don’t necessarily be offended by
it, but if it bothers you, change it. Whatever bothers you about the definition
of bitch that applies to you, change it. If you have been labeled a bitch, take
a look into why you were labeled as such. Did you say or do something to offend
someone? Was that offense warranted? Does it really matter that you are labeled
as such? Does it bother you that you are labeled as such? Can the situation be
fixed? If not, can you live with what was done, or what is said and done to you
because of this label? I can’t answer this for you, these are questions you
must answer yourself.
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