Friday, June 1, 2012

Ho's, Drama Queens, and Bitches: Part 2: The Drama Queen


*Disclaimer: there will be coarse language used in this post, if you’re easily offended and get sand in your vag, fucking deal with it, you may be part of the problem. Straws and tampons ladies, either suck it up or plug it up.*
                And now for my second part, Drama Queens. This one is particularly irksome to me, mainly because I seem to be surrounded by them on a daily basis. Now I do understand that there are instances that cause drama, and in some cases they really can’t be avoided. I’m not talking about that. No, I’m talking about the girls that claim that they don’t like drama but seem to cause it every chance they get. Whether it’s picking fights with people for perceived slights like my ex roommate (and ex husband), committing petty revenge on someone, or causing havoc by creating uncomfortable situations, each one is just as repugnant to me.
1.       Let’s pick a fight: This one bothers me because in some cases she will fly off the handle over a perceived slight when in fact nothing was done wrong. Trying to reason with this one is like talking to a brick wall. Not gonna fucking work, and it’s a waste of breath. The only way to combat this is to tell her the information when she is a lot calmer. Try to tell her anything too soon and it starts all over again. Sometimes the issue becomes clear to this one, however their pride prevents her from admitting it and will cut you off for no reason.
a.       Example: Drama Queen: “Why isn’t there any toilet paper in the house?”, me: “because you used it all and didn’t buy any more, I haven’t been home for the last 3 days and you never told me that we were running low”, Drama Queen: “Fuck you bitch, why the fuck should I replace it?” (please note that this was my roommate telling me this), me: ”Excuse me? I bought almost everything in this house for the past month and barely got to use any of it, between you and your loser boyfriend  I have spent more on food and toiletries in the last month, than I ever had to do with my ex husband and I, and I’m barely here most of the time.” Drama Queen: “Whatever bitch.”
2.       Petty Revenge: in these cases she’s got issues where she feels that she needs to be in control of everything. And when she doesn’t have that, she’ll backstab, or whatever she feels would warrant the situation. This includes but is not limited to property damage, slander, exposing sensitive secrets to anyone who will hear, filing false police reports, and so many other things. There’s not much you can do except for when you realize her for what she is, (hopefully you aren’t the object of said revenge) you get the fuck away… FAR AWAY! If in the event that you are the subject of said revenge, you do what you can to perform damage control, and then get the fuck away. However, if the situation is bad enough, such as sabotage, property damage, or slander, there may be some recourse for you in the legal system. Especially if the issue is going to cause you significant issues over time.
3.       “And let the havoc begin…”: This one has many forms. Sometimes it takes the form of a hypochondriac, someone who suffers from Munchausen by Proxy, addicts in various stages of recovery, or someone who combines the previous with this by sleeping with someone else’s significant other. Here’s a way to deal with some of these particular individuals.
a.       Hypochondriac: This one is in and out of the hospital or the doctor’s office more than a dick in some porn stars. She’s constantly complaining about this or that being medically wrong with her. It seems that she’s on a fist full of pills for one reason or another. You almost suspect that she’s addicted to at least one prescription or another and is a pill seeker. The best way to deal with this one is to gauge whether or not the issue is valid and whether or not it’s worth it or not to call her out. There are many reasons for this one to rear its ugly head. Whether she had a rough life growing up for one reason or another, or she isn’t getting enough attention now, it really isn’t your business. Sometimes it is best to just walk away.
b.      Munchausen: This one is particularly dangerous because they not only cause drama, but in some cases it can cause physical harm to someone who should never have to deal with this. Usually the victim of the proxy is a small child. The best way to deal with this one is to get involved in the victim’s life in some way, in some cases report the issue to the authorities, and recommend that she gets help.
c.       Sleepers: This one is particularly disgusting because if you are the one who had your significant other sleep with this one that can put you in danger of some nasty little hitchhikers known as STI’s (sexually transmitted infections for you non acronym savvy people). These can range from embarrassing to life changing. The best way to deal with this one is to leave the one who cheated on you and let them make their best impressions of bunnies if you know what I mean.  They’ll figure it out soon enough and you’ll be none the wiser.
d.      “Oops I’m pregnant”: This one kind of belongs with the previous one but it has a few differences. This one belongs with those who are in a same sex relationship, and you find out that she cheated on you, with a guy… The best way to deal with this is to decide whether or not it is worth it to stay or go, and whether or not it is worth it to forgive her. I know of a few relationships where this was a complete relationship killer.
e.      The revengeful over-sharer: this one belongs with the previous full section but often the case is that what was shared, had no business going outside the two of you, and is causing a lot of hate and discontent among the people it was shared with, particularly aimed at you. If you are not one the over-sharer is trying to hurt, the best way to deal with this is to tell her “Why the fuck are you doing this? I don’t care, leave me alone, and stop causing drama.” Then go to the one who she is trying to hurt and give them the heads up in a way that isn’t going to get them mad at you. If you are the subject of the over-sharer’s wrath, call her out, and set the record straight with those who she contacted. In some cases you may have to do some preventative damage control if necessary.
f.        The attention whore: This one obviously didn’t get enough love from mommy/daddy/legal guardian. It ranges from getting in trouble with law enforcement, causing fights at the club/bar, getting so fucking drunk that she’s a fucking mess that can’t even walk on her own, acting-a-ho, etc… depending on the severity you either give her the attention she needs and then recommend that she gets help with her “daddy” issues, take her to the nearest emergency room and drop her ass off, call law enforcement and have her taken into custody (especially if what she’s doing could harm self or others), or get her family involved in getting help. What you do with this one is up to you.
Of course there are more types of drama queens out there, but this was just a sampling of a few that I’ve recently had to deal with.  That’s not to say that there won’t be addendums to previous posts at a later date.  I know from the rate of this, I’ll have a lot of writing to do when it comes to our stereotypes. Until next time… TO BE CONTINUED…

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